Meet Gitika and Arvind.

These are two different individuals from the similar work industry. They have different work cultures and pressure. One has an understanding nature and the other always needs space.

In the initial time they just adjusted with each other. Later started the differences appearing to the surface.

Gitika always wanted communication even if it was the smallest matter or feeling, on the other side Arvind wanted space and less words. Gitika made efforts to please Arvind as she wanted him to speak more, appreciate her efforts. Arvind saw this as a basic way to lead a life and failed to give appreciation to her. Arvind didn’t feel the need to either reciprocate to her nor make any efforts to communicate with her the way it made her feel loved.

She started to prioritize spending time with her friends, she started giving him less time. He felt hurt by this, he couldn’t communicate this to her in a way she would understand, instead it was always anger that came out.

Over a period of time, Gitika turned cold towards him and started seeing every small ignorance or disagreement as a very big thing that it went to quarrel between them.

They wanted to consult a counsellor for the last time to save their relationship and/or explore what she wants from the relationship.

They had their first session and didn’t see any outcome nor get any solution for their marriage and they decided to not go again for therapy.

Little did they know that in couples counselling the first session is always getting the information about their relationship, asking them about their bond, understanding the relationship dynamics and also a chance for the counsellor to understand what the couple want to do about their relationship. Then the counsellor explains the process of how the future sessions will go and what is expected out of the couple.

Remember, the first session doesn’t give a solution nor a path that can help the couples walk on to improve their relationship. It’s just a fundamental session that gives the therapist set up future sessions and is very important for the future sessions ahead.

Give your relationship time and give your therapist sometime to help your relationship thrive.