Many times we come across situations where we have to decide about whether to be happy or make others happy and when we ask ourselves whether what I want to do is right or wrong, or is it going to affect the opposite person, or what will the person think of me, or will I be bad if I decide something for my happiness, etc. etc. etc.

These thoughts become so important to us that we keep on thinking in loop and also keep thinking about the good and bad stuffs those people or that person has done with us and try to weigh everything trying to may be convince us that we can manage everything. But we still keep feeling that we should make ourselves happy and take a decision for ourselves.

Let me tell you, that you won’t do wrong if you will decide to be happy and peaceful. I am repeating again, you won’t do wrong if you decide to be happy and peaceful. Because unless you are not happy, it is less likely that you will be able to make your loved ones happy.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to thinking about other people and their feelings, circumstances and situations if it doesn’t make you feel happy or doesn’t have any positive costs for you to bear to think about something not making you happy. Let me give you an example: A girl was in a relationship with a guy and they were going good together. Her only complaint was that he wasn’t able to express his love verbally to her or talk things that bother with her. She wasn’t really happy about this and also had thoughts of leaving him and find another man to make her feel special, loved and wanted and who would be more verbal when expressing love and affection. But, her man always noticed when she was not in good mood and was low and did things that made her feel okay and make her smile. For example; he used to bring her favorite flowers, chocolates, food, etc. take her for movies she loved, etc. Also he would hug her and make sure her travels were comfortable and hustle free. Looking at his efforts that gave her message that he loves her she decided to still be with him and not find anyone.

But if you think that everything is negative about the person and there is no balance that you can find, then, yes choose your happiness first, choose your peace of mind first, and it is always right. Because if you will not be well mentally it will start affecting you physically and personally as well. Plus then if you are not happy how will others around you be happy?

So stop thinking about right or wrong and start thinking about making you happy.